Horror tales from a former flight attendant
“Your senior would force you to smoke, drink and even sleep with them. If you didn’t comply, they would make your life hell.”
“A colleague of mine was terrified because the head steward wouldn’t stop knocking on her hotel door in the middle of the night. When she didn’t respond, he taunted her in front of everyone the next morning. It got so bad that she cried every single day.”
“She felt dirty every time she put on her uniform so she quit her job.”
These are just some examples of the many traumatic experiences female flight attendants have suffered in their line of work.
In a newly published book, a flight-attendant-turned-writer recounts her own air horror tales with a liberal dose of humour, even though things were far from funny back then. And the title doesn’t get any more appropriate —
Madness Aboard! Welcome to Plane Insanity.
“It (sexual harassment) was so prevalent that you can ask any stewardess who worked at the time and they will tell you the same stories,” says 40-year-old Yvonne Lee, who left the aviation industry in 1995 after six years.
She tells Malaysian daily The Star of how a chief steward called “Joe Square Jaw” had attempted to make a move on her in the cargo hold.
“I felt a strange erected pressure against the small of my back. If I remember correctly, it was the same kind of pressure I had felt when I was among the sardine-packed commuters on a bullet train in Tokyo,” wrote Lee.
“Some Japanese pervert had jacked up against my butt. Then it quickly occurred to me that this was no bullet train but a deserted cargo hold where only one other person existed! Joe Square Jaw!”
Insanity indeed.
A UK report entitled ‘Sexual harassment culture shatters illusion of high life' shows that in a survey of 2,000 women who worked for a national airline, more than one in five said they had suffered sexual harassment from passengers.
Apparently, male members of the crew pose an even greater threat. Almost half of the women said they had had to put up with offensive remarks or lewd behaviour by colleagues or superiors.
And the easiest prey? “Rookie stewardesses,” as Lee calls it.
“It was as if it was a time before modern civilisation and the stewardesses were viewed like cattle stock. Whether pilots, stewards or passengers, they ogled at a newbie like she was a walking piece of prime steak, a Chateaubriand with a chignon and in heels…. It was demeaning.”
So why do flight attendants make such appealing targets for sexual harassment?
The International Transport Workers’ Federation (ITF) points the finger at advertising.
“There’s not an airline out there that hasn’t at some time sought to exploit the notion that air travel includes being served by a physically attractive hostess,” states the ITF report.
The Star gave the example of Singapore International Airlines (SIA)’s “Singapore Girls” — so famous that a reproduction of “the girl” became the first commercial icon to be placed in Madame Tussaud‘s waxworks museum in London in 1993.
“Gorgeous air stewardesses…I think a majority of passengers have come to expect that,” agrees flight attendant Max Foo, 26. “In fact, I have friends who said they preferred Asian airlines compared to Western ones because the latter were full of old, matronly women.”
Fussy much? Try the demanding male passengers, or those who had a little too much to drink, or both.
“A male passenger touched my behind. I told him, you do that again and I will slap you,” says a stewardess in a report complied by the ITF.
“I asked the other passengers to be my witness to his behaviour and, in the end, I had to slap him. Of course, sometimes you’re afraid you might lose your job.”
Says senior flight attendant Annie Teo, 46, “It’s as if normal rules don’t apply when you’re 40,000ft (12,192m) in the air. This problem is further exacerbated during the layover period, when you’re in a foreign land with co-workers who are virtual strangers. There was a lot of hard partying going on.”
These cases may not make newspaper headlines, but word gets around on who the top predators are, says Teo.
“We have an unofficial list of our own,” she adds. “There’s a Top Five Captains List and a Top Five Supervisors List. We’re very cautious with those who make the list.”
While Teo admits that things have somewhat improved since the implementation of more stringent laws governing sexual harassment at the workplace, the working conditions are still far from desired.
“It’s still normal for a male captain or steward to refer to a stewardess as a ‘crew meal’, meaning that she’s an easy lay,” says Teo. “That’s the first thing they look out for in a flight — a stewardess that they can makan (“eat”) and pass on to their colleagues. They think it’s funny.”
And the worst part? The same sexual predators who were around 10 years ago are still around today.
“The supervisor who raped my friend is still working, even though he has amassed a string of cases over the years,” reveals Teo. “He even got promoted recently. I think it’s because he has strong ties with the human resources department.”
There are reasons why such cases go unreported.
“Usually, we’re advised to lodge a complaint in the office instead of taking matters to the police,” she says. “If the victim does this, however, the office would require both her and her perpetrator to be present for an investigation. What if the perpetrator isn’t penalised for his actions and decides to make her pay for what she’s done?”
(adapted from Yahoo!'s Fit to Post blog)-----
My Thoughts
Sensationalise - the first word that came to my mind when I read this article. Well, this is the usual way to gain more readership.
Is sexual harassment so prevalent in the airline industry? Yes, there are such things happening...but is it prevalent (i.e happening in 8 out of 10 flights)? My answer is no...or at least not now (of coz I will not know the situation in the 80s & 90s as I was still a kid!).
Culture shock - this is what I think most new crew will experience as there are a few unwritten rules which new crew has to follow...if not, risk being "zap" by senior crew.
1. Never choose your meal without asking the seniors
If you are the most junior crew on the flight, make sure to ask your seniors what they wanna eat before you happily take your favourite main course from the oven.
2. Be the organiser during layover
No matter how much you wish to spend time alone, try to call the seniors (everyone in the crew list and not the selected few whom you think are nicer to you) out for a meal. Yes, they may not join you, but at least they know that you have made the effort.
I still remember that I was told off by an IFS (Infight Supervisor) for not doing that and my feeling then was like wtf...this is not part of the JD!
3. Never talk back..."Sorry" is the golden word
As you are new, the seniors will always deem you as the one who is wrong. Just eat the humble pie and say sorry. Life will easier for you.
Tattoo & Sharon - They have the 'Fu Qi' look. They are getting married in Feb!
Taking a picture with Sharon & Belinda while waiting for the banquet to start
The ping-pong folks
The shuttlers...Yeah, I am one of them! Miss the times when we went for competition.
Yes, Watson...the store with the green logo 
